The proverb–“Well begun is half done.”–recognizes that it’s good to get off to a good start. So isn’t it peculiar that marriage–what we vow is a long-term “permanent” relationship (“Till death do us part”)–begins with “falling” in love? Why associate this most delightful state of consciousness with falling? What good ever came from falling? How can a relationship that starts with a fall do anything but fail? Too soon after the rice has been thrown and the wedding cake is eaten, far too many brides and/or grooms call divorce lawyers.
Rational people might argue that “falling in love” is just a figure of speech. But the subconscious mind takes the words and thoughts that we feed it literally. So it’s high time we replace “falling” in love with “rising” in love or “growing” in love.
We have a host of expressions that don’t give love a chance. Consider the following:
“I’m crazy about you.“
“I’m madly in love.”
“Love is blind.”
We associate love with craziness, madness and blindness. Is it any wonder why six in 10 first marriages end in divorce? What if we changed our expressions?
“I’m crazy about you” could become “Being with you helps put me in my right mind.”
“I’m madly in love” could morph into “Being in love frees me.”
“Love is blind” could change into “Love opens my eyes to higher realities.”
Loving another person can lead to delightful and liberating states of being, to marriage and children, and to a lifetime of commitment together. It’s high time that we give it a chance to get off to a good start by calling its early delicious stage rising in love.